1:1 coaching
1:1 coaching
an online coaching journey
In my coaching journeys I offer a process of transformation to heal and awaken sexuality through the use of a powerful combination of holistic tools.
heal the pain, feel the pleasure
In my coaching journey we dive deep into what is holding you back from getting what you truly desire. We meet each other every week or bi-weekly in ZOOM. The sessions are supported by tailored ‘home play’ for a deeper integration of the work we do in our sessions, and to give you practical tools that you can use for life.
Everything we do in the session is embodied. This means that we talk, and we use words, but always in a way that is connected to your body. In the coaching method I use (VITA™) we connect to your subconscious mind through your body, because your body never lies and has an innate wisdom to share with you.
We always start with getting very clear on your deeper desire. Once we know where to work from and towards, I use my intuition and creativity to decide which tools and practices we will be using. This can vary from meditation, felt sense, to breath work, emotional liberation, and working with your inner child or family dynamics.
At the end of our journey you will walk away with a deeper understanding of who you truly are, of what to do to create more freedom within yourself and more courage to allow your true sexuality to shine through every cell in your system. You will have healed deep wounds and experienced pleasure along the way. You have now the embodied wisdom, tools and the knowing how to support and love yourself unapologetically for the rest of your life.
Coaching sessions can be in Dutch or English.
vita™ coaching methodology
The VITA™ Coaching method is a process of transformation to heal and awaken sexuality (and not only) through the use of a powerful combination of holistic tools such as breathing, healing from trauma, meditative practices, energy work, the expression of the body through movement and sound. VITA™ Coaching offers a completely unique approach to healing and awakening not only sexuality but also a return to one’s essence. It takes the most effective teachings of modern neurobiology, holistic healing and modern coaching and their fusion with the ancient and powerful teachings of Tantra, Taoism and Sacred Sexuality. The VITA™ Coaching approach also recognizes that the body has an energy system and we work with this energy to systematically release and awaken the natural state of flow within us. Healing is profound but delicate and transformation is noticeable on many levels.
reviews

"Tessa carries deep ancient wisdom and you can feel it. It’s in her, it’s in her aura. At the same time, her joy, her smile makes a bliss balance.
I had a wonderful session with her where I felt empowered and grounded afterwards. Tessa’s aliveness, combined with softness and knowledge beholds deep powerful session all with ease, flow and warmth. Within minutes, I felt confident to share emotions and feelings that are generally hard for me to express. I am deeply grateful for our work together."
“I started the coaching journey with Tessa because I felt that there was still some work to do for me in the realm of female sexuality. Also, I thought it was beautiful to do it now since soon I will be a mom of a daughter. And it would be amazing if I could pass on feminine power instead of shame and blockage.
Tessa’s sessions have been truly transforming: I have gained more insight in why and when certain blockages and shame originated. Because of this insight I have more compassion for myself and I can communicate better about it with my partner. And, what is really awesome is that through the fantastic practices I reconnected with my playful, sensual and fun making and exploring nature. I am less in my mind during sex, I am less ashamed and my playfulness is back!
Tessa is a queen in uniting depth and light. This made me feel safe to open up and to let my inner wisdom come to the surface. I am super grateful for Tessa and her coaching journey.”
"What I took from Tessa’s sessions, and what has really been imprinted in my nervous system is that I am an attractive, beautiful and sexy women. And yes, there are many other attractive, beautiful and sexy women in the world, but that doesn’t matter anymore. I feel like one, I do not need to compare myself anymore because I can really look at myself with new eyes.
"My sessions with Tessa were fundamental in me finding real insight and peace with my body and the emotions surrounding the conception process.
With her gentle guided visualizations and tools I was able to let go of my gnawing anxiety, doubt and sense of lack surrounding this topic…and I came out the other side with a deepened sense of gratitude and connection to what it is to be a women."
“Tessa has the most wonderful and gentle ability to hold space in a nurturing, non-judgmental and safe way. I felt completely held by her and like I could let all my barriers fall knowing she would catch and guide me safely back home. I was often lost in her gentle embrace as she guided me towards my truth. Through her coaching, I discovered depths within myself that I have never seen or experienced before, and feel deeply grateful for this.
Tessa sure has a way of capturing your unique style of processing and hones in on it so that you can penetrate more deeply and also within your own pace. I'm so thankful for her and for our sessions together. I feel like she has given me valuable tools and insights that are priceless."
investment
Before I start working with you, I first want to meet you. To see and feel if we are a match and therefore I offer:
• a 20-minute discovery call (free) •
• a 60-minute introduction session (€80/ZAR800) •
Our meeting will allow us to make an aligned decision if we should go on a journey together.
1:1 coaching
- 6 sessions of 75 minutes
- a safe container for transformation
- tailored 'home play' in between sessions for deeper integration
- a summary via email after your session
- online support in between sessions
- valuable practices and tools to take home
- payment plan available
couple coaching
- 10 sessions of 90 minutes
- a safe container for transformation
- tailored 'home play' in between sessions for deeper integration
- a summary via email after your session
- online support in between sessions
- valuable practices and tools to take home
- payment plan available
hello, I am Tessa
I have been there. Big time. Feeling stuck in life, disconnected from my body. I was terrified to feel and I thought that by ignoring the signals of my body they would go away eventually.
Luckily they did not.
Deep inside, without knowing on a conscious level I was so scared of intimacy. Being intimate with the partner I dreamed of, but didn’t cross my path. And first and foremost scared of being intimate with myself.
It was only when my body shut down completely that I started to go within. A journey that started over 10 years ago, and through therapy, bodywork and lots and lots of practices, I started to see and feel that I had ignored my Feminine. For so so long… The yin energy that wanted to flow through my system so badly. The sacred, free, wild, intuitive and sensual Feminine. My emotions wanted to be liberated, my inner child wanted to be healed and held, my female lineage begged me to put a stop to years and years of suppression and generational shame of the sexy, vulnerable and alive Feminine.
Eventually it was my pussy who started to speak to me. I couldn’t ignore the signs anymore that she wanted to be loved. For all her dark, and all her light.
And that is where things really started to shift. I felt powerful enough to make choices that were long overdue, I learned the art of true surrender and how life flows when I dare to give in. I started moving my body in ways that I did not know were possible, I allowed her to move in her wild and free way. My sexuality and pussy opened, freed from shame, orgasms deepened and I started to own my birthright of feeling PLEASURE and ALIVE. I feel all my feels, know how to move them, how to express them. I love love love my body and I honor my pussy. She knows, and She is the gateway to my sacred soul.